is_mobile, sto-id-editor, sto-id-pages, language, sp, _snow_ses.1cf4, _snow_id.1cf4, snowplowOutQueue_snowday__wn_post2, WeeblyDiceRollUser
Real Relationships bring you prosperity!
Back in 2017 The Lord had asked me to lay it all down. To step out of what I have known since I met him in 2004. To let go of relationships in a way I thought they would be for a much longer time. It was hard. It was surprisingly hard to me. Throughout the next year it eventually brought me to a place of doubt, fear, suicidal thoughts, confusion, rejection and loneliness. Even with an amazing child and one on the way. My hope and future seemed so lost... I couldn't even bring thoughts of hope up. It was bad.... I am now on the other side of this and I hope this blog helps encourage you in any type of pain you have right now.
Places of pain. As in my story above, pain can come from many places. A place of being pressed through the eye of the needle. Being asked to let go. To give things up. Changing of relationships and community. Dreams expanding and room being made for future generations. A time where we may be feeling confused, lonely, in doubt and fearing the unknown of what may be causing our pain.
Pain reveals. It tells us something is in need of attention. Pain in your body reveals the need of healing; pain in your heart and feelings speaks of soul healing; painful imagination, your thoughts need healing. Pain reveals to us our true selves (at the moment), the process to our healing, and the journey to our life in its fullness.
Pain is a door. Either we go through it or stay where we are. It is our choice. It's a door with crossroads. Telling us we can now continue forward on the track of pain or we can turn, dig in and step into wholeness.
STAYING doesn't mean the pain goes away. Staying and ignoring the pain doesn't slow down or erase it either. Staying and creating a self protecting atmosphere (I will just shut my heart off, they won't get close again, I will show them, etc.) doesn't make things great. Staying makes you stagnant. Like a stilled pond gaining more mush, more muck and more mud that collects things to keep you STUCK. Stuck in the now, in the pain, in a state of the fear with the unknown and unseen. Staying says no to forward progress, to future hope and healing. It's like a wound that you don't tend to which creates pus, gain green and eventually becomes dead. Staying causes the pain to Consume us. It's not a fruitful or fun place to be.
Moving THROUGH the "door" of pain brings understanding and freedom with knowing what has caused the pain. It helps us to get free and to have the peace and joy in our life we are created to have. Going through it makes it free for others to be around you and you free to BE YOURSELF. It means you are being redeemed and set free from all hangups in your life.
It is important to know what we can do with pain. Some think they have no choice and say things such as "its how I was born", "it is the way it is" I have to learn to deal with it" etc. The most vital thing we have, when having pain, is our choice for ACTION. Will we say nothing or will we say YES. Will we stay stagnant or will we walk through the pain. It all starts with a choice, it all starts with a YES.
No matter what pain you've caught yourself in, making a decision to act, or to walk through, is vital. It's vital for you, your future, hope, belief and your vision.
Saying yes is getting to the fulfillment of who you are. It reveals us and our true selves. Saying yes is the perfect step to the fullness of Him which is the completion of our wholeness. Its the legacy we leave to our little ones or spiritual children we adopt. It's the bridge we build between our soul and our Father God. Yes is worth it for US , His Kingdom and our Family.
To bring this home, I want to talk about some others that have said YES and walked past their pain. Then we will dig into some ideas on HOW to do this!
The first person I thought of was Jesus of Nazareth. He said yes in the garden of Gethsemane. He pressed pass the pain and the blood, sweat and tears of wanting it to stop and go away. He was not wanting to go through what was before him. But he said yes to GO THROUGH the pain and focus on the joy set before him anyways. His yes helped redeem the entire world and every living soul that will arrive here.
Martin Luther & Rosa Parks. Both of these said yes to go through the pain of starting a new norm. They chose to not keep silent or stagnant. And because they chose to go through they made a new WAY for others and future generations to come. What an amazing YES! We may never know the true impact our YES has the day we make it~
Barnabas had to press through the pain of knowing Paul's assaults to his family and friends. Saul was their enemy. But Barnabas chose to say YES to the Lords request and pressed through while TRUSTING Him. He had no clue the impact for the word and Gods Kingdom his yes would have. Leading so many into encounter with the Kingdom, Beloved, Father God and Holy Spirit.
What about the moms that said yes to carrying a child, birthing a child and the many hours of feeding that child. There is a lot of pain through these seasons. And of course this has made a way for YOU and I to be here 😉
Then there are the amazing dads. How many said yes to war and fighting to keep US safe. They pressed through the pain of leaving family and possibly not seeing them again. Or the dads that say YES daily to go to work and provide for their family and its future. Again, there is the pain of pressing past feelings of self, loss, fears, unknown, etc. and the great reward of many legacies to come!
Every single person that has had an influence on another has had to say yes through some type of pain. Pain isn't racist or sexist and only effects certain people. Pain is pain. It manifests when we need to give something attention.
STEWARDING OUR YES
So now that we have said YES what do we do with stewarding it well?
BE REAL! Admit the pain. Recognize and call it for what it is. Realize the feelings associated with it are real. Jesus was real with Father God. He told Him he didn't want to go through it. Jesus was also real with his disciples (community). He told them he was in agony with such sorrow to the point of death. That is something intense.
GET A VISION! The Joy set before you! Vision is important... knowing that you have a hope and a future. You can get many from Gods word that is full of promise. Go digging for them and write them out and declare them. The Trinity is a great place to go and speak with about what your future holds. Your personal words is a great thing to steward as well. No matter how broad or detailed they are, write them down and review them often. Each word is important and is a part of another word.
WHO IS YOUR HOPE! What is your hope in? Is it man or God? Might I say get it aligned with ONLY god. Man is man. We are not perfect and no one should be held at a standard of perfection. It is only doing the Fathers will and seeing Him that gives us true lasting hope. Keep your heart and sight on Him... the JOY set before you... his promises manifested in your life.
COMMUNITY! Who believes in you? Who do you look up to and care to walk with, to learn from and grow with? Reach out and keep them included. When I was dealing with my internal struggle I HAD to reach out to others and invite them in. I knew if I stayed alone I would not end well. So I asked the Lord who He had for me that was safe and made a point to reach out to them often! Here me, I didn't wait on them to contact me. I know my needs and what was going on internally. This was huge for me and it seems Jesus had the same. Those three disciples who He asked to come and pray with Him.
So STAND UP! and GO FORTH! through that door. He has His promises and goodness awaiting on the other side. And as always let me know what you agree with or disagree with. I love a good conversation. Abundant Blessings!
*SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONVERSATION AT THE BOTTOM RIGHT OF THIS PAGE!*
This blog is written in hopes to inspire you to be an amazing YOU! To be real, honest, loving and kind. First to YOURSELF and then to others!