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Real Relationships bring you prosperity!
It’s important to understand community. Also, to understand flowing with God and His will and trust in relationships. To me this is very mysterious. So many people, personalities and purposes.
Community isn’t a building, job or a ministry. Community is people. Those who surround you and celebrate you. They connect with your hearts dreams and desires, and/or you connect with theirs.
Community is sometimes those that are supporting, counseling or walking with you through a trail. This isn’t always your best friend or your leader. Not everyone is equipped nor able to handle your hardships and your heart. Doesn't mean they are less than or bad but we all have our own walks of life and style to support. It makes us unique! This is usually a person who God has ordained to be there for you, He has given them the grace and wisdom for whatever it is you are going through.
Community also changes. It flows as you flow in season and out. Some may follow and be with you in multiple ones and others may only be for one particular season. Some may be intimate for one season and friends that only hang every couple of months the next. Walk with God and trust Him with this!
Connection shows up in different ways as well. Some people feel so close to you as they connect via text or email only. Others may need that one on one time once a week to feel connected. It all depends on their love language. Know them and be grateful for all of those God has put in your life.
Personality. This also has a play with connection. Do they like jokers that laugh all the time, or are they more serious and like to talk about economy or health only. All of this matters with who feels more connected with you and who you feel more connected to. And comfortable with :)
I am sure you have heard of the inner circle. The best description of this that I have seen is Keeping Your Love On by Danny Silk. There's also the life of Jesus. He had a few disciples that were the closest (inner circle) that did more intimate things with Him, but 12 that he walked along side of to change the world in His ministry. So ask the Lord who are the 1 or 2 that can handle your heart and trust Him with that! He knows you better than yourself and He knows your tomorrow!
Being aware of these things will help your heart. It will help you when a transition period comes to look at truth and not be driven by lies of division and judgement. Usually when we feel disconnected we are more abt to listen to an accusation than to give the trust that is deserved or has been earned. The disconnection could be a transition taking place for what God has next in your life.
For example, if God is taking you from a corporate job to full time ministry, you may start to notice some of the relationships changing at work. You emotions could be getting stirred up as you become really frustrated or feeling lonely. Being AWARE of these feelings and KEEPING God in the middle of your life will help you become more aware of what's to come, or the possible transition you are in. We all know God sometimes waits until last minute to fill us in on the plan. So we are to trust when things get shaky! Some call this "the grace is lifting". When something that was once a joy and easy becomes hard, uncomfortable and frustrating. It may be God transitioning you and making room for new relationships and new adventures!
Let me say this as well. *This is not a right and wrong blog post. This is not to see who is to blame. This is to set your heart free and know yourself, your community and your season better! Having understanding is freedom!
MY STORY ON THIS: (very broad version :))
For most of my life I had a perception everyone was to be my friend and connect with me in some way. In school I was a class clown and captain on our cheerleading team. I had soooo many that connected with me on some level and I had called them friends. But not many got to really know and spend time with me, which is my love language and therefore I felt "less than".
As the years have gone by, I asked the Lord “Why are they not connecting with me or why isn’t this relationship working” his response was “I never asked you to give your heart to them!” Woah! Talk about a cut. You see, I thought being a Christian was being open and loving to everyone by opening your heart and revealing it. So when God said that I was pissed. I couldn’t beleive the Lord allowed me to pursue a relationship when it wasn’t to be. Of course this is not His fault but He took the blame. :) So this began my journey to a deeper understand of community, family in the church and relationships.
I still have not the fullness of this and maybe some wrong perspectives that need corrected BUT understanding my relationships and taking into consideration God's opinion is soooo much more helpful and freeing. Get understanding and invite Him in!
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This blog is written in hopes to inspire you to be an amazing YOU! To be real, honest, loving and kind. First to YOURSELF and then to others!